May 10, 2010 by Reader's Connection
Central Library´s Jan Swan has created a timely list.
Ahhh, tis the season to be wed…..or at least engaged, and so I became curious about books on all aspects of weddings. Well, ok, I will be a “mother of the bride” soon and that has also piqued my interest in books about weddings. The first one I picked up was by Judith Martin, Miss Manners´® Guide to a Surprisingly Dignified Wedding, which I have found to be a reassuring voice of sanity. The narrative of the book is interspersed with letters to Miss Manners from perplexed parents, brides and attendants on everything from invitations to thank you notes. In this way, Judith Martin covers all aspects of planning a wedding. Her overriding emphasis is on consideration for the feelings of others in order that all in attendance may experience a truly happy celebration.
Books on planning a wedding abound. The Wedding Book: the Big Book for Your Big Day by Mindy Weiss simplifies the process by organizing its information into broad categories. “First Steps” includes the budget and the guest list. “Laying the Foundation” gets one started on planning the ceremony before guiding the reader through the ins and outs of the reception. This is much better, in my opinion, than getting caught up in the celebration details first. After all it’s the ceremony of marriage that is being celebrated. Finally there is a section “Making It Beautiful” that covers everything from dressing the groom and bride to makeup. Appendixes include simple planning timelines.
It’s amazing how the cost of a wedding can start to climb, especially when concentrating on one detail at a time instead of taking the time to organize the planning. Sharon Naylor’s book 1,001 Ways to Save Money– and Still Have a Dazzling Wedding is a succinct guide to planning with an eye on the budget.
List making can make one crazy or keep one from going crazy depending on how detailed the list gets. It’s easy to find timelines for all the tasks involved in planning a wedding. I found it best to take the lists in a book such as The Knot Book of Wedding Lists and pick and choose among them. No doubt, this is what the authors intended anyway. The lists are detailed. Some may apply to your circumstances, some may not.
One of the most enjoyable aspects to planning a wedding is leafing through sundry books of sumptuous illustrations. Sharon Naylor has written several books about wedding planning. The most recent, Knack Wedding Flowers: A Complete Illustrated Guide to Ideas for Bouquets, Ceremony Décor, and Reception Centerpieces provides inspiration and guidance on wedding decorations. Not only does it have over 400 photographs and advice for working with florists, it also provides ideas for the do-it-yourself bride.
Finally, amidst the flurry of activity, I find myself taking a deep breath and remembering the essential element behind all the celebration—the vows.
Oh Beauty ever ancient, ever new . . . So begins Wedding Rites: A Complete Guide to Traditional Vows, Music, Ceremonies, Blessings, and Interfaith Services by Michael Foley. Each chapter is introduced by quotes from literature and abounds with history, custom and tradition. This book is a gem if you are looking for a guide to the various wedding rites including not just vows but also blessings and ceremonies.